"parents just don't understand"
so basically i have this new boyfriend and he's four years older than me. well my mom won't let me go see him and it really sucks because if i go to the store or something she thinks i'm with him. and i really like him and he's an amazing guy but i've recently been put in a position where i have to come across this guy who i've liked for years. and he tells me about this girl he likes and i just sit back and listen. and i like my boyfriend ALOT. he's really great and he's been on my mind almost all the time. but it sucks having the one you're really into be dangled in front of you. and on top of that, to be able to see my boyfriend i have to take another female with me to his apartment. well i cant take any of my best friends because one would rather secretly fool around with her girlfriend in the locker room, and the other two would rather go to their boyfriends house and fool around. :[ i wanna move out. and i think i will, to my dad's but now, i just have to actually converse with my dad....
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3 comments postedHello. Ive got a friend (well me and her are fighting right now but) Um. I know I wont sound really "smart" but MY "friend" Is 14. her boyfriend is 17 turning 18. EXACTLY the same deal. her moms called the cops on him and they still insist on going out. I think It makes the younger people (no hates btw) look like prostitutes. seriously but thats only my judgment.
Are you sure they don't understand?
Well first off if you are young your ruining your life trust me my best friend was 15 and was dating a 19 year old guy and she moved out and went to live with her bf. She ended up sleeping with him and getting pregnant and she couldn't charge him because she agreed to anything that he had done... so what does he do he finds out she pregnant blames her for cheating and moves! So she stuck on the street 15 years old and pregnant she to embarrassed to go home and talk to her parents. She find a shelter that she could stay till she has the baby but she ended up staying with a old family friend.. Who told her parents what happened. She is 18 years old now with a 2 year old daughter. She doesn't regret having her daughter but she regret leaving home and dating an older guy... Guy are unpredictable especially if they are much older. They will use you they will tell you they love you and convince you in doing things but that's not whats right. Your parents are only doing the best for you...if you want to date him why not go somewhere public? Or he could have dinner at your home and get to know your family and gain the trust? Its not always easy love is complicated and sometimes people just ignore the signs and ruin their lives. So don't say your parents don't understand they just don't want you to get hurt and lose you like my friends parents almost did.
It may not be that they just don't understand. How old are you? You said he's 4 years older and you have to have someone else go with you to his apartment. Is he old enough to own his own place or does he still live with his rents? Trust me, it has nothing to do with them "not understanding". If you're still a teenager and he's an adult there can be complications. And if you two were to have sex he could be sent to jail for statutory rape, depending on where you live. Try to talk to your parents instead. They do remember being your age. They may just be going off of how THEY were at that age and worry. Try not to be too hard on them.