"parents just don't understand"

ok heres the way i look at it. put yourself in their shoes im being serious like actually think like them not just from your point of view. would you really trust your daughters boyfriend if he was 4-6 years older than her. right away you say yes, but your not thinking like they are. your still thinking from you. they raised you for your whole life, sure you've gotten away without them knowing some stuff but once they find out that stuff they are worried like hell. f*** i forgot what else i was gonna say anyways what im trying to say is think about it from their position would you let your daughter who you love so much and raised and taught her certain things and everything to date this guy you dont really like and hes older then her by a bit. dont hate them for trying to keep you safe and unhurt.

I'm gonna tell you a story lets hope this helps you out.
I was dating this guy (bobby) when i was 18! Bobby and i broke up because we got into this really big fight and i thought i loved someone else (Sherman). I started dating Sherman, now remember i was 18 and Sherman was 24. Anyways everything was going okay for the first few days. Then a couple of weeks went by and i quit my job for him, i was still in college at this point. When i quit my job, i moved in with him and his mom, sherman and i were only together like two weeks when i moved in with him. Well after a month with him i got pregnant and dropped out of college BIG MISTAKE! i needed a break from him so i traveled 3000 miles to visit my sister, thats when i found out i was prego, well my sister and i got into a really big fight and i came back home (to his house). I told him i was prego and he seemed happy but at the same time i really don't know what the hell was going through his mind. We got into this really big fight one night and he punched me in the face, i was ready to walk out the door (i was still prego at this time i was like two months along), anyways his mom came in and stopped me and told me that he didn't mean it, so i said okay ill stay, well the next night he and i got into it again and this time he threw me up against the wall, i packed my shit and i fucking left! my mom came and got me, she wasn't happy at all but she helped me out! Well that Son of a bitch didn't care about me or his daughter. I went in to the doctors to find out what i was having, little did i know that she had died, so i called sherman being the bigger person that i am, i told him that she died and i was going to the hospital to have her, well he didn't have the balls to show up! when i had her thats when i found out she was a girl. anyways my dad went and found a funeral home that would do a memorial for her, i called him and told him about it, yet again still no balls to show up.. so here is my advice to you.. older men might seem like the type to be the best, but don't go for an older man that your parents don't approve of because i promise you that will be the biggest mistake you will ever make in your life.. learn from me. i don't regret my baby but i regret quiting my job, dropping out of college and leaving my parents! My parents have helped me through so many rough times, they are there to help guide you in the right direction, trust me i would know!

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Hello. Ive got a friend (well me and her are fighting right now but) Um. I know I wont sound really "smart" but MY "friend" Is 14. her boyfriend is 17 turning 18. EXACTLY the same deal. her moms called the cops on him and they still insist on going out. I think It makes the younger people (no hates btw) look like prostitutes. seriously but thats only my judgment.

Are you sure they don't understand?

Well first off if you are young your ruining your life trust me my best friend was 15 and was dating a 19 year old guy and she moved out and went to live with her bf. She ended up sleeping with him and getting pregnant and she couldn't charge him because she agreed to anything that he had done... so what does he do he finds out she pregnant blames her for cheating and moves! So she stuck on the street 15 years old and pregnant she to embarrassed to go home and talk to her parents. She find a shelter that she could stay till she has the baby but she ended up staying with a old family friend.. Who told her parents what happened. She is 18 years old now with a 2 year old daughter. She doesn't regret having her daughter but she regret leaving home and dating an older guy... Guy are unpredictable especially if they are much older. They will use you they will tell you they love you and convince you in doing things but that's not whats right. Your parents are only doing the best for you...if you want to date him why not go somewhere public? Or he could have dinner at your home and get to know your family and gain the trust? Its not always easy love is complicated and sometimes people just ignore the signs and ruin their lives. So don't say your parents don't understand they just don't want you to get hurt and lose you like my friends parents almost did.

It may not be that they just don't understand. How old are you? You said he's 4 years older and you have to have someone else go with you to his apartment. Is he old enough to own his own place or does he still live with his rents? Trust me, it has nothing to do with them "not understanding". If you're still a teenager and he's an adult there can be complications. And if you two were to have sex he could be sent to jail for statutory rape, depending on where you live. Try to talk to your parents instead. They do remember being your age. They may just be going off of how THEY were at that age and worry. Try not to be too hard on them.